Sep 29, 2011 by

My sister sent me an e-mail the other day about the importance of girlfriend relationships to our health.  Thought I would share some of it with you and tell you about my best girlfriends.  In the final lecture of a class about the relationship between stress and disease, the speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said that one of the best things that a man can do for his health is to be married to a woman.  For a woman, one of the best things she can do for her health is to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends….true!

My best girlfriends

Women connect with each other differently then men and provide support systems that help to deal with stress and difficult life experiences.  Physically this quality “girlfriend time” helps to create more serotonin, a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being.  Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities.  We share from our souls with our mothers, sisters, friends and that is very good for our health.  The Stanford speaker said that spending time with a girlfriend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.

So every time you schmooze with a girlfriend, pat yourself on your back for doing something good for your health.  Here’s to all my girlfriends…you keep me healthy!

My best girlfriends (above) were all baby lawyers together 25 years ago at a small firm in the City.  We have all left the firm, some of us have left the practice of law, we live in NYC, New Jersey, Westchester, Long Island and Connecticut, but we have stayed in touch.  Several years ago we decided to turn our bi-monthly dinners in the City into a book club.  We’re not very serious about the books, usually spending maybe 15-20 minutes discussing the book and then turn to what really interests us….what’s going on in each of our lives….work, husbands, children, travel.  Last year we organized a long weekend at a magical 125-acre farm on Maryland’s Eastern Shore, surrounded by water on 3 sides. We ate…

Crab aftermath in the kitchen

drank lots of wine…

Just some of the empties

And of course, did some major damage in local shops…

Two cars full of shopping bags

We go back in 2 weeks, and I can hardly wait.  How about you….what do YOU do with YOUR girlfriends??



  1. I have a girlfriend that I talk to at least 3 times a week. We call each other “girlfriend”. We share so much. Deep feelings and thoughts. Very good for the heart. I can really relate to this.

  2. Bea Schriver

    Thanks for reminding me of how important my girlfriends are! I’m going to
    make more of an effort to stay in touch with them.

  3. Love this post. Great reminder to stay in touch.

  4. Jean Hom

    Thank you Kate for reminding us women about the important things in life! Looks like you do a marvelous job being a great girlfriend & I have to be much better!

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